As someone agender, I see gender as a performance, and sometimes I just don’t feel like acting.
As someone genderful, I see gender as a performance, and I got the wrong script. Luckily, nobody seems to have noticed that I’m making it all up as I go along. XD
First I’ve seen of that, genuine curiosity, is that another term for nonbinary? How would you define each.
Also, username checks out
my understanding is that:
- nonbinary: identifies in any way that falls outside the woman/man gender paradigm. this includes but is not limited to agender people, and some other examples are genderfluid, bigender, and xenogender identities
- agender: lacks gender entirely or does not identify with any particular gender
so all agender people are nonbinary, but not all nonbinary people are agender
xenogender
i had to look that up, and i’m rather happy there’s a word for that now.
I often see community memes and feel as though I took part in a collective fever dream. Good show
That uniform actually looks extremely binary…
I HAVE TO GO TO THE BANK TODAY!
I have to go to the bank after this! What am I going to tell them? I had good and bad news!?
People naturally want the world to make sense.
Some folks find it more natural to ostracize those who don’t fit within their worldview rather than updating their worldview to accommodate new information.
It’s rough out there for some of us. I have long curly hair and massive curves (I can’t even bind because of medical issues). Trying to get people to use any pronouns but she/her is a lot of work
Gender is, at its heart, a social construct. You can accent certain features, even throw on a big sandwich board saying “I AM <GENDER>”. But at the end of the day, you’re banking on other people recognizing you as you want to be seen (and then not being trollish contrary assholes).
If social conventions shift and lots of dudes start growing out long curls and padded pants, you’ll be in luck. If every dude in America wakes up one morning and gets a crew cut and cuts weight to twinkish proportions, you’re in trouble.
Maybe people could recognize gender as a function of fashion rather than a genetic branding marker. Then the idea of being non-binary or fluid would have enough socially acknowledged signifiers to click. Until then, just gotta be the trend-setter you want to see in the world and “dress non-binary” loudly, I guess? Or dress like a schlub and bank on baggy cloths blurring the lines enough for people not to think hard about it.
This is why I tell people “any pronouns” despite almost always referring to myself as “it” or “they”. I find it useful to hear how I am percieved, it helps me figure out just how “extra” I need to dress to be seen as a person of mixed gender.
you don’t look non-binary
mf, am I supposed to look like your narrow funnel of expression, you acorn? Did soup one day decide taste this stale, or did you also add butter to your gumbo?
