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Cake day: February 7th, 2025

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  • I am not sure if this is a joke. Most commentators seem to perceive it this way. But just in case I will answer seriously.

    This was done by a human:

    • your kid (you said you live alone, so not this one)
    • your guests
    • someone uninvited (but it makes no sense for them to leave this)
    • you in a way you cannot remember.

    I will expand on that last one since no one has done it: Do you have an issue with substance abuse? Do you have issues with your memory? Do you have any psychiatric issues? Your other personality could to this if you have a dissociative identity disorder. Check symptoms and pay attention on similar events. If this keeps happening go see a doctor.




  • When I try to write something I do not edit anything. I just write. Editing is the issue for future me. Or someone elese. But it will be the last step. I have not decided yet. And I write short stories, such that I can finish one in an evening without pauses. All of them together form a bigger story. You do not have to write short stories but you can organize chapters to be short enough to be finished in an evening.



  • Relationship maintenance not being exclusive to marriage does not make it suddenly fun.

    First do note I distinguish between loving someone and falling in love. My native language have two different words. One for the deep connection (being in love) and one for temporary feeling (deeply loving).

    Married people falling in love (temporary feeling) is common. Not saying it happens to everyone every day. But you do not imagine people around you would often tell you about this really sensitive private topic?

    Imagine you suddenly get a hot and a really friendly coworker that you have to spend time with them every day working on a project. It is in nature of falling in love to fall in love with a person you spend this much time with.

    How on earth do you imagine there is so much cheating and divorce (especially with coworkers) in the world? People misinterpret a temporary feeling for a deep connection. And some even for destiny… This of course often leads to cheating.

    I think we are again just differently interpreting a subjective word “often”.

    In my opinion people saying marriage is happy but it is a lot of work just mean, you should not forget about relationship maintenance. There are reasons 40% of people in relationships end up cheating. And I do not believe it is because couples are just incompatible. In my opinion this is a natural outcome of letting yourself grow apart from your spouse. And not being careful about getting attached to new people. And both are just symptoms of leaving out the “hard work” of the relationship maintenance.