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Cake day: July 9th, 2023

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  • Well…I think you lost me. The really sudden loss of your job sucks, no matter what. I agree that a lot of people get laid off every day, but I feel sorry for them too. Employee protections in the US are also terrible compared to a lot of other countries. This situation is different, because it is so random, so far reaching and connected with a lot more insecurity. An ailing company may fire people…that is something you can see coming, but what is happening right now is just senseless and not very smart. A lot of things will break and in the end people will die, many people will leave the country and the economy will tank.




  • Your feeling for how much things will/should cost will be completely off. Some things will seem crazy expensive, while others are really cheap.

    Others said it, but I’ll say it as well: Germans tend to be very friendly, but are not very open. It takes time for us to open up. In my experience, a lot of things (emotions for example) aren’t said directly but are said jokingly.

    Germans tend to be direct and use short sentences. Something that can be answered with just one word, WILL be answered with just one word. That can sometimes seem like a harsh reaction to a simple question but really isn’t meant as such.

    If you’re still in school, it can be very different from what you know. Same goes for university. There are a lot less activities at school (clubs), but that frees up time to do things outside of school. So you have to organize you free-time by yourself and you might just spend that with friends.

    I guess you will also be walking more. This is totally based on my stereotype of American car-focused city building. The larger the cities are in Germany, the worse they get for driving with cars. All larger cities have a good public transport system and that naturally means that one has to walk more (to/from stations). I noticed that myself, when I moved from the countryside to the city.









  • I…don’t get it. This is an old way to help a child that has something stuck in their throat. I mean, the heimlich maneuver was first described in 1974, so I guess this WAS in fact the best technique at the time. Keeping someone from suffocating is kind of important, and this seems like something you can do fast and easy (at least with a relatively small person).





  • I think you already gave yourself the answer in your own case:

    Because I give zero crap about what other people think of me.

    This applies to people that aren’t in your inner circle. You want HER to be in that circle and suddenly it actually does matter what SHE thinks of you. You have little to lose with people you don’t really care about, but everything to lose with people you do care about. It’s an evil social twist that makes everything so complicated. High self-esteem is just the ability to quickly pull yourself up when you fall and the knowledge that you actually CAN do so. It mitigates the risks of “putting yourself out there”.