It’s hard enough getting acclimated here and then someone comes along and asks an innocent question or looks for more information and it’s all “fIrST oF AlL ThIs IsN’t ReDdIt” like no shit, shut the fuck up and stop being the problem with this site that makes people leave.

Appreciate your valuable contribution

…I WOULD fit in with my beard. I dig it.

Sounds like you’re angling for me to have a million things to say to you

You make a good point I hadn’t taken the time to think about before. There’s not really too many heroes like that. Everyone deserves their chance to see themselves as the hero

My parents would say this to jole then ask what my preferred name is. It all depends on your type of relationship and what was cut off.

“Villains can’t be queer or it’s bigotry” is the worst take. Gimme badass queer villains. Human stories are human stories.

93 yes. 96 no. Rounding

I can dislocate my joints at will. Thing with Ehlers-Danlos but it’s a nice party trick

Lemm.ee was specifically created during the reddit exodus as a way to manage the influx and is very loosey goosey. Unfortunately that means you have to block the horrible instances manually, but it is what you’re looking for I believe

This is what my ex used to say before she started beating me. This isn’t a feeling normal people feel.

Not anymore. Thank you nutrionist Dogg

I know, we’re both predisposed to alcoholism, we’ve both had family die to it. I’ve struggled with it a little bit myself in my younger years. I know that if she chooses alcohol over us then there’s nothing I can do about it. And honestly it’s right at that point now. I love her and I always want to be there for her, but if she pushes me away I…I mean I know I deserve better and I know I can’t live like that but I’m just going to do my damndest for as long as I can. She’d do the same for me.

Have done this, not video, but texts. She was horrified and embarrassed and swore it would never happen again. And then it happened…like, thirty more times. So I don’t think that’ll work unfortunately

Thankfully I have a fairly large support network of family and friends I can rely on. I’ll be okay no matter what happens. I just want her to be okay too

Thank you, I did need to hear that. When I called up my brother he said a lot of the same stuff. I know there’s a possibility she’s going to choose alcohol over our relationship and I’m ready to recognize when that happens. But I don’t think it’s there yet. If she doesn’t go to this counseling meeting she scheduled then I’ll have to rethink things, unfortunately. I know from experience how bad it can be and how little you care about other people when you’re in that hole but sometimes you just need someone to throw you a rope down to help you climb up and I’m hoping that’s the case here. And that she chooses to take it and make the effort to climb up herself.

Oh duh, thank you, I can’t believe I didn’t think of that myself sooner. Yeah maybe I’ll go there too. Though I haven’t even opened that since they killed RiF

Unfortunately she doesn’t really have any support besides me. At least, none that she trusts herself. I’m trying to encourage her to make friends and branch out a bit but she’s very anxious and shy which, I get, I am too. And yeah I’ve been really bad about saying “no more drinking” and then letting her convince me with “oh baby it’s just ONE I PROMISE it’ll be fine tonight” and it never is. But I put my foot down last night and I do intend to stick by it this time because I’ve tried a gentle caring lax attitude and that didn’t work so this is it now I guess.

Thank you for this, I know she can get through this and come out okay on the other side. I hope she doesn’t have to almost die for that to happen though

Yeah I’ve tried directing her to the /stopdrinking community but she doesn’t want to do that. She’s had some bad experiences with people online. And I guess people in general. She does like to read though, maybe if it’s a book she’d be more open to it, thank you