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  • I get a lot of use out of glass screen protectors. I’m quite clumsy and they’ve saved my screen many times! I’ve used a couple of different brands and they sometimes take more than one try for me to line up correctly, but $10 and a few minutes of mild annoyance is a very small price to pay compared to replacing a whole phone screen.









  • I many cases, no. Where I live, a 16-year-old cannot:

    • vote
    • enlist in the armed forces
    • sign legally binding contracts
    • legally purchase alcohol, tobacco products, or cannabis
    • buy lottery tickets or gamble at a casino
    • serve on a jury
    • buy or sell property
    • marry
    • inherit money or property
    • own a credit card
    • fully control their own medical decisions
    • register as an organ donor
    • quit school
    • get a tattoo or a body piercing
    • move out of their parents’ house

    Some of these things can be done with parental consent or if particular circumstances apply (such as if the child in question is legally emancipated). But broadly speaking, there are a LOT of rights, responsibilities, and options that do not apply to anyone before the age of majority (18 here).


  • Crushes are like the common cold, I think. Sometimes they appear out of nowhere, and we have to endure them until they pass, but we don’t have to indulge them.

    Something that can help is to pick something that’s an annoyance about that person, or a reason that you wouldn’t actually want to be with them, and redirect your thoughts toward that when you find yourself thinking of them. It can be something really important (“No; I could never be with a married man!”) or even something very dumb or superficial (“Ugh, hairy ears!”). It doesn’t really matter, as long as it’s something that helps to train your mind/heart away from “I want” and towards “I don’t want.”

    If you know you can’t be with someone, or wouldn’t really want to outside of whatever fantasy you’re indulging, then finding ways to stop indulging in that romantic daydream is the best thing for both you and them.

    Edit: something else to ask yourself is whether this is actually about this man, or about something he’s come to represent to you. You’re a long way from home in a foreign culture. Are you really looking for his love, or are you craving something he represents (stability, home life, end of loneliness, etc.)? It’s worth reflecting on.










  • I don’t think it means that silence will necessarily benefit you materially – rather that silence is something precious or valuable. Maybe consider the proverb’s relation to these similar ones:

    Still waters run deep.

    Better to close one’s mouth and be thought a fool, than open one’s mouth and prove it.

    The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.

    The prudent keep their knowledge to themselves, but a fool’s heart blurts out folly.

    A wise old owl sat in an oak:
    The more he heard, the less he spoke.
    The less he spoke, the more he heard;
    Why aren’t we all like that wise old bird?