Where are all my transhet sisters?
I love the queer community and I feel like the more I work on myself, the less accepted I will be as a queer person.
For example, I joined a queer friend-finding app recently which didn’t have an option to label myself heterosexual. At first I went stealth and didn’t list my sexuality, and I got lesbians calling me a tease. I made a public post about being transhet and I mostly got messages from weird cis men.
I’m going to look for friends only under the trans umbrella for now, online and irl.
To that end: I like pop music, knitting, and politics. Please tell me your favorite online communities and people to follow!
I know you’re angry but your pain does not excuse bad behavior. If you mistreat people they will (and should) call you out on it; that doesn’t mean you’re being singled out or bullied. It means you’ve received a consequence.
To then pivot and say “I wasn’t looking for friendship from those people anyway” is a moral failure; you should have instead apologized to the people you hurt and tried to be better.
Cishets are ignorant, not bad people, and for you to publicly announce that you’re breaking up with them (rather than just… doing it) is petty and doesn’t solve the problem. Be better please. This community needs good people.