• Baron Von J@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    and my dad replies, “Great.” That looks passive aggressive

    What about it makes it look passive aggressive? How would excluding punctuation make it not look passive aggressive?

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      3 months ago

      It’s the explicit inclusion of period where ‘normally’ there wouldn’t be one. In texting or DMs it would normally be assumed that one-liners wouldn’t contain punctuation except to enhance effect, so the inclusion of the full stop is being read as a 😐 or exaggerated neutrality

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        It’s the explicit inclusion of period where ‘normally’ there wouldn’t be one.

        But given the larger history of textual communication, full punctuation is normal. Texting isn’t charged per character so it’s not like there’s a benefit to leaving it out.

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          Texting isn’t charged per character anymore, and only in most places most of the time. And those habits may still persist in other places. My manner of ‘speech’ is very different in front of a keyboard vs on a phone, for instance.

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          Texting used to be done with a number pad, so going as far as adding a period used to be a statement. Obviously we all have keyboards now, but I’m sure some of that still translates over to today.

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          Leaving out unnecessary characters makes you type faster, that’s also why people write u instead of you sometimes

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        I don’t know anything about texting then. I would have been happy they responded.

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      2 months ago

      The fact that ‘great’ by itself is not a full sentence, and a period indicates a declarative stop.

      See example above.

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      What about it makes it look passive aggressive?

      Good question!

      As I explained later in the post, “Great.” looks like sarcasm. My brain interprets it as having a sarcastic tone, and thus being passive aggressive.

      (I am not alone in this, hence the very thing we’re commenting on.)

      How would excluding punctuation make it not look passive aggressive?

      You might as well ask why tone of voice changes the way we interpret things. Written short-form communication has evolved cultural norms that some people understand better than others, just like spoken communication. Chalk my tone interpretation up to an adolescence spent on IRC.

      My point is that the full stop being passive aggressive is contextual. None of my uses of it here are intended to portray passive aggression or sarcasm, and if I wanted to do that I would not only change my sentence length and structure, but also my vocabulary.

      But of course these norms aren’t as readily understood as actual tone of voice, which is why things like “/s” can be useful.

      • Baron Von J@lemmy.world
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        First off, thanks for humoring me.

        As I explained later in the post, “Great.” looks like sarcasm. My brain interprets it as having a sarcastic tone, and thus being passive aggressive. (I am not alone in this, hence the very thing we’re commenting on.)

        I get that it’s a common interpretation amongst a demographic.

        You might as well ask why tone of voice changes the way we interpret things

        Eh, vocal changes carry actual physical changes in the sound waves which non-hearing-impaired persons can perceive, so I don’t quite think it’s an apt comparison. But I understand your intent in doing so.

        But of course these norms aren’t as readily understood as actual tone of voice, which is why things like “/s” can be useful.

        Precisely why it seems odd to me to interpret the use of the basic of punctuation whose literary meaning hasn’t ever carried an absence of express indicator of emotional intent to be negative.

        Again, thanks for engaging with me on it, even though I still don’t get it.

    • cv_octavio@piefed.ca
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      2 months ago

      The fact that their dad was (possibly?) raised in an era when children were taught to read and write correctly is what makes it passive aggressive…

      and just laziness inculcated by Internet/mobile/meme culture.