• Flying Squid
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    -25 months ago

    What on Earth does that have to do with parents causing their adult child psychological trauma by showing their partner naked baby pictures?

    Did you think I meant showing it to their partner if they were adamant that you did not do so and it was going to hurt them? Did I ever even imply such a thing?

    • @ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      55 months ago

      You seem to think people being upset about things is inconsequential without it going through a peer review process, I’m just trying to gauge where your limit is for that.

      • Flying Squid
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        -25 months ago

        Being upset about something is nowhere near the same as trauma. You’re being silly.

        • @Rekorse@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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          Where do you draw the line on how much discomfort/sadness/anger your actions cause before it becomes a wrong thing to do?

          I understand embarrassing your adult child by showing child porn of them to their partner is below your bar, but can you describe how you figure out which side you are on?

          Do you disagree with any traditions that are designed to embarrass someone? What about hazing in college or the military? What about making fun of girls over voice chat? If these are bad examples to you, can you come up with something else and answer about that?

          • Flying Squid
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            -25 months ago

            Of course there are levels of unacceptable. And the level is above showing someone’s adult partner a naked baby picture for fuck’s sake.

            I’d ask you if there is any level of discomfort that is acceptable? Tickling causes a level of discomfort, but also pleasure. Should I not tickle a child? Punishing a child when they do something wrong causes them discomfort and sadness and anger. Should time outs be considered child abuse?

            • @Rekorse@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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              55 months ago

              Depends if you are talking legally or morally. I disagree with a lot of whats legal. Your examples are silly and easy to answer:

              If they want to be tickled than yes, if not than no. Punishing the child is for their own best interest, not to get them to learn to listen to the king of the house better. We make decisions for them because they aren’t capable of making the best decisions for themselves.

              So how exactly does taking pictures of them naked when they are babies or children, help them in any way?

              Its a stupid tradition. Embarrassing people is always bad. Purposely hurting people is always bad. Regardless of the trauma it causes it would still at best make you an incredibly selfish person.

          • Flying Squid
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            05 months ago

            And yet it’s true. Being upset and trauma are two very different things as I know from personal experience of both. For example, you’re upset with me right now. You’re not traumatized by my post, I’m sure.