I don’t know what’s more sexist. the comment above or the fact you played off of it seriously. Especially with point 1. Like it doesn’t even register that the above comment was an insult and not serious at all and you took that sexist joke to a serious place to play off that men aren’t expected to even be capable to turn a knob and that is somehow acceptable. Do them better than this.
Works both ways though. That was a big point of contention while I was married: if you want special treatment for any item of clothes, it’s up to you to at least turn it inside out and sort it into the “special needs” bin. I’m not reading every label on all the clothes for the entire family.
However she never did. Just complained when it went through the normal wash with hundreds of other items. Who’s your momma now? Your big hairy momma with a beard?
Are women excluded from the group of people whose “mommies do everything for them”? Perhaps commonly, it’s a genuine question.
I do see the thought of it being a mom instead of a dad adheres to traditional gender roles, although I wonder about an individual’s obligation to resist playing into that tradition. I can see it being harmful.
I’m pretty sure they were mocking their lack of responsibility vs saying only women do laundry. It’s the same joke as saying you live in your parents basement.
My assumption was the joke was that OP’s mom does their laundry for them as if is OP was a child, not that women are constrained to doing laundry. It’s not like I didn’t clock the joke. The kernel of truth was the idea that doing those 3 things might be a pain to do, and even my partner complained about having to be careful with certain clothing when I taught her how to do the laundry (which I still primarily do), but it’s good for people to have these skills, regardless of gender. On the flip side, she stopped complaining when she realized how much longer her clothing lasts now.
Also, my parents divided chores up, and my mom was in charge of the laundry while my dad did the cooking growing up because they each preferred doing those chores. Had nothing to do with gender, but maybe that’s why I didn’t immediately consider the assumption that somebody’s mother does their laundry as sexist. Sometimes, it’s just like that.
On the topic of you making wild assumptions about another’s thought process (unless you’re a mind reader, and I missed that), I was carrying on to say with my comment that OP should do all that. Not their mother.
Assuming traditional roles to cramp on a sexist joke is sexist. You played a part in how you interacted with it even ignoring it, tagging onto it. Backpeddling just makes it worse. You should probably stop while you’re ahead
Sorry, I haven’t had somebody jump to the worst possible conclusion about what I meant for the sake of being argumentative and flexing their moral superiority in a public space since college, so I’m a little out of practice here.
Please stop telling me what I think after I corrected you. That’s gaslighting. Additionally, as a nonbinary person, I also don’t appreciate a stranger forcing their paradigm of gender roles onto me like that. Please check yourself.
Do you really think his mom is going to go through all that?
What’s “folding”?
Yeah, aren’t you supposed to just dump your clothes into the clean hamper?
Something people on message boards did back in the early 2000s where we left our computers on and cured cancer.
Origami.
I don’t know what’s more sexist. the comment above or the fact you played off of it seriously. Especially with point 1. Like it doesn’t even register that the above comment was an insult and not serious at all and you took that sexist joke to a serious place to play off that men aren’t expected to even be capable to turn a knob and that is somehow acceptable. Do them better than this.
Works both ways though. That was a big point of contention while I was married: if you want special treatment for any item of clothes, it’s up to you to at least turn it inside out and sort it into the “special needs” bin. I’m not reading every label on all the clothes for the entire family.
However she never did. Just complained when it went through the normal wash with hundreds of other items. Who’s your momma now? Your big hairy momma with a beard?
Are women excluded from the group of people whose “mommies do everything for them”? Perhaps commonly, it’s a genuine question.
I do see the thought of it being a mom instead of a dad adheres to traditional gender roles, although I wonder about an individual’s obligation to resist playing into that tradition. I can see it being harmful.
I’m pretty sure they were mocking their lack of responsibility vs saying only women do laundry. It’s the same joke as saying you live in your parents basement.
My assumption was the joke was that OP’s mom does their laundry for them as if is OP was a child, not that women are constrained to doing laundry. It’s not like I didn’t clock the joke. The kernel of truth was the idea that doing those 3 things might be a pain to do, and even my partner complained about having to be careful with certain clothing when I taught her how to do the laundry (which I still primarily do), but it’s good for people to have these skills, regardless of gender. On the flip side, she stopped complaining when she realized how much longer her clothing lasts now.
Also, my parents divided chores up, and my mom was in charge of the laundry while my dad did the cooking growing up because they each preferred doing those chores. Had nothing to do with gender, but maybe that’s why I didn’t immediately consider the assumption that somebody’s mother does their laundry as sexist. Sometimes, it’s just like that.
On the topic of you making wild assumptions about another’s thought process (unless you’re a mind reader, and I missed that), I was carrying on to say with my comment that OP should do all that. Not their mother.
Assuming traditional roles to cramp on a sexist joke is sexist. You played a part in how you interacted with it even ignoring it, tagging onto it. Backpeddling just makes it worse. You should probably stop while you’re ahead
Sorry, I haven’t had somebody jump to the worst possible conclusion about what I meant for the sake of being argumentative and flexing their moral superiority in a public space since college, so I’m a little out of practice here.
Please stop telling me what I think after I corrected you. That’s gaslighting. Additionally, as a nonbinary person, I also don’t appreciate a stranger forcing their paradigm of gender roles onto me like that. Please check yourself.
Nobody light a match this strawperson argument is getting real big in here.