For example, if a wealthy person only wants to socialize with and date other very wealthy people, how would they know? Like, for example, what if LeBron James or Tyler Perry only wanted to be friends with other wealthy people and wanted their kids to only date and marry people from other wealthy families? How would they know the people they meet also come from multi-millionaire families? I’m sure if a random billionaire met someone at a club or social event, they wouldn’t introduce themselves by saying, “I’m X, Y, and Z, and I’m worth this much money.” What if a son of a multi-millionaire wanted to date a woman who came from a wealthy family? Also, if he meets a woman, how would he know if she comes from money or not? Like I said, she wouldn’t say, “I come from generation wealth” right off the bat.
If you don’t know the secret handshake youre not rich enough.
They don’t go to places you or I go to on the regular. They have exclusive clubs, restaurants, or hang out on someone’s yacht.
How rich are we talking? Owns-three-islands-rich or just upper middle class? Because the latter’s wealth isn’t very visible, but they also don’t really have an issue with forming relationships with those less well-off.
Then, for actually rich people who do not wish to associate with riffraff, there’s plenty of signs:
- Where did you meet them? There’s plenty of settings that are almost exclusively full of rich people, such as yacht clubs or expensive hotels.
- What are they wearing? Things like brand-name clothes or expensive jewelry are some notable signs.
- What is their home like? Some shitty apartment or a mansion with a manicured lawn and a swimming pool? Things like size, location, the condition of the home, their furniture, items, electronics, etc., tell a lot about the person’s wealth.
None of these is 100% waterproof, of course. They could be in that expensive place with a rich friend. They could be wearing Gucci because they got lucky at a thrift store. But when you have multiple of these combined, it’s pretty safe to assume the person is rich.
The very rich probably meet and socialize people who meet at expensive country clubs where one has to prove their wealth for Board approval.
You say this as a joke but country clubs actually do this
I don’t know wealthy people like that, they just don’t meet non-wealthy people, and not because they don’t want to, it’s just their bubble
I mean honestly it depends on the wealthy person. I know several multi-millionaires I know several people that are worth hundreds of millions of dollars. A lot of these people are quite social which enables them to have quite a big influence on quite a few things overall. Admittedly I’ve never met any of the billionaire class or anybody that is that close to being that rich. But you do have to admit that since that class is so small guaranteed they have people around them and people they know and people that hang out with that are nowhere near that level of influence.
My point was that I don’t know wealthy people who don’t want to hang out with less-wealthy people (not homelesses, just middle-class or maybe a bit lower) because of their financials.
Exclusive or elitist events, activities, education. Also how people dress and hold themselves is often a good indicator (most refer to this as class). The obvious question of what do u do is very effective at filtering out the low lives. Also networks and who you know is the real value in the inheritance not the money or assets. From a young age your taught to network and figure these things out without being too explicit and to find the people that will be successful before they are successful and if they are playing a similar game it snowballs from there.
Rich people arent even connected to people who arent rich. Its their entire ecosystem. Everyone has money, thats just how it is. They dont talk about money because they just have it. Its like air.
There are all sorts of filters:
- Expensive clubs. Members only associations like country clubs can skew towards the ultra rich. Yacht clubs and polo clubs are kinda an extreme version of this, but there are all sorts of organizations where the membership can be assumed to be rich.
- Expensive hobbies. Wine tasting, skiing, golfing, boating, horse stuff, biking, and traveling/vacations can range from the slightly expensive to prices that only the ultra rich can afford.
- Related to both of the above, expensive places. If you’re skiing in an expensive resort town, and hanging out in the lobby of a $2000/night hotel, you’ll probably only see employees of these places or other very rich people. Some have even layers beyond that, like an exclusive members only club in an expensive area, or a separate lounge for only people lodging in the most expensive rooms in the hotel. Or if you’re at a private jet airport, and weather causes delays and cancellations, standing around in the terminal might allow you to mingle with other private jet people. Or if you live in a crazy expensive neighborhood or building, your neighbors are pretty much guaranteed to be rich.
- Third party verification. Networking, introduction by mutual friends/acquaintances, even social media or dating apps where you have to prove your status/wealth.
It’s not all or nothing, either. Some places have a disproportionately high number of rich people but aren’t necessarily exclusive to the rich (private schools, certain types of clubs, certain types of activities/hobbies, public parks/restaurants/libraries/museums in rich areas). So a lot of rich people do mingle with the middle class, but often will feel comfortable letting their guard down more or less in particular places or in particular groups.
Don’t forget expensive schools.
They go hang out in incredibly expensive country clubs and on their yachts and at elite universities and prep schools, polo camps and air conditioned safaris.
I mean, this is what my cousins did. It was creepy, till I got in one little fight and my mom got scared, and said you’re movin with your auntie and uncle in Bel Air.
I had rich grandparents and great grandparents and they didn’t do any of that. The only “rich” thing I remember them doing is going hunting.
Most of the stuff in this thread is based on fiction and certain types of nouveau riche assholes.
My grandparents never lived rich… my grandfather’s father did build a fortune in Long Island but most of it was lost during the 1929 crash and subsequent Depression. However, what they did do was save and invest and land values were inexpensive in the late 30s so they bought a house for $3K a few blocks from the bay. They always lived really modestly and volunteered, worked civil service type jobs, required all their kids to work after school and really just socked away and invested every dime they could. When my grandmother retired, they bought a condo in Florida and became snowbirds. Our family still has that condo. After my uncle died (he was left the house for his lifetime), his brother sold it for over $600K. The rest of the Trust after my grandparents died was divided among the brothers and survivors of the ones that were already gone. They were never Hamptons rich though.
I mean, what’s mentioned in this thread is what rich people I know do. Plus saw a lot of it in Palm Beach.
A lot of rich people actually try to live a normal looking life. Stealth wealth, and you might never find them until you get invited to their house.
Their house will be nicer than average, probably not crazy, but just a lot more than a typical person would have. They will have things like fancy light fixtures and switches that don’t look totally normal, the furniture will look normal but if you look closer you’ll only find high quality wood construction, tongue and groove, etc. You should also notice things are probably cleaner than a typical house (because regular house cleaner), everything works, and major appliances are newer generally. They are rich so they don’t have to make any budget trade offs.
These people might have insane net worth and they are trying to down play it because they know how bad it is for them when they are obviously wealthy for so many reasons.
Ostentatious wealth signals are usually sign of a HENRY or a striver, those people typically aren’t actually wealthy they have a lot of debt.
I don’t think this answer truly internalizes how some of the ultra rich live. Yes, many are living a normal looking life, going to their jobs and doing a lot of the same activities that the upper middle class do. They generally eat at the same restaurants, have the same hobbies, and enjoy the same television shows that the rest of the middle class does. Often they go to the same live events (sports, concerts, plays, stand up comedy) that middle class people do, and often don’t bother with luxury boxes or things like that. They’re members at the same gyms, and might plot out the same run trails as normal people.
It’s just that they tend to fly private instead of commercial, stay at very nice luxury hotels unique to that particular location rather than the chains you’ve heard of. They have multiple homes. They’re members of clubs that require a lot more money to keep up in. They have lots of paid staff, both seen and unseen, smoothing over their day to day lives, washing dishes and laundry, maintaining houses and cars and landscaping, making reservations and doing paperwork on their behalf, etc.
The form of stealth wealth isn’t that they’re all among us doing normal things, with no obvious indicators of wealth. It’s that they often aren’t even around us to begin with. So the sheer amount of time that they’re around non-rich people, and actively interacting with non-rich people, may be a tiny portion of their time. Even if they do a lot of the same stuff we do, and go to a lot of the same places we do. They do it in ways that don’t necessarily interact with us directly.
That’s a fair take, vacations are for sure a place where the rich splurge, but at those status type hotels you will also find a lot of not rich but affluent folks as well so it’s harder to be sure just because you’re there that you’re interacting with a truly wealthy person.
Kinda depends on the price of the place, right? A $500/night hotel might have a few upper middle class folks on a splurge (a honeymoon, some kind of points-based play on their credit card, etc.). A $2000/night place filters out the merely rich and leaves only the ultra rich. And a $10,000/night place isn’t even accessible as a bucket list item for even the 1% but not 0.1% types.
If you’re hanging out at the pool or some kind of lounge reserved for hotel guests at a place like that, you’re gonna have a pretty high probability of running into money.
I have stayed at my share of 2k+ hotels and I can promise you not everyone at these is rich. It filters yes, but there are definitely aspiring people who aren’t good with their money there too.
HENRY?
High something Not Rich Yet — people who have a shit-ton of income but blow it all on whatever instead of hoarding it properly
High Earning Not Rich Yet
Do you think they care? Wealth isn’t a dick size competition. They socialize with coworkers old friends, family ect. like everyone else
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Stop deifying super rich. This is primitive stereotype. They aren’t special.
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You’re a sick fuck.
Obviously new here is new here.
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This is the function of exclusive social or networking events. Often either an exclusive invite list or very high plate price. You’re either invited to the table, or pay to be there.
Once you’re at the event, you’re either known, or engage in small talk where details are revealed. Here strategic partnerships form, or there are quid pro quo for access to secondary or tertiary networks.
It’s not what you know; it’s who you know.
Wealthy people don’t mingle with the rest of us. They literally live in a totally different world, and you ain’t invited unless you can clean their toilets for cheap, or give them massages on their private Caribbean islands and shut your trap.
There is a flipside here as well which is that when you’re wealthy everyone constantly asks you for money. You start doubting that any social interaction is genuine. Is this person hanging out with you because they like you or because they want your money?
Then don’t be ostentatious with your wealth. Don’t advertise it. And if you can’t do that, then maybe don’t get so wealthy.
Its probably a hot take but I do think everyone deserves empathy.
You don’t have to be. If anyone finds out it spreads.
On internet nobody knows you’re a billionaire
Some of us are two billionaires in a trench coat.
The real communitarians and separatists
There’s an app called ‘Rich Kids’
It requires $1,000.00/month fee. People use it just so they can communicate with other rich folks.
I thought you were joking. Fuck, man. Why didn’t I think of that?
I know people where even that would be considered cheap and for the poors.
The subscription for the HOA app where I work is 25k a week.
The sub… For the app. Not even the HOA fees. JUST the app. Monthly these people are spending thousands a month for just the privilege to live where they do.
My MIL and her husband once lived in a gated community in Florida that had a gated community inside the gated community… Like the outer one was the buffer zone. The inner one had actual professional security at their gates, not mall security gate keepers.
Yardi is the most expensive HOA software I found when looking and 25k/week doesn’t sound believable unless you’ve got 100,000 houses under management
Probably because you don’t know anyone who would pay for something like that.
You have to spend time around rich people to come up with an idea like that.
Epstein got a job at an exclusive private school. He was ‘only’ a teacher’ but it gave him access to the ultra wealthy.
Ronald Reagan did the same. He was a mid-level actor who got a gig as a spokesman for a giant corporation. He made sure he was always the poorest guy in the room. People began to offer him stock tips and cut him in for a tiny percentage of multi-million dollar deals.
For the online side of things, there are actually social platforms designed specifically for wealthy people. For instance, there’s Raya, which is an invite-only dating app that only allows celebrities as members. The platform was kept “secret” by making it accessible only through an iPhone app, whose description in the App Store was intentionally vague and boring, to discourage any plebs from bothering to install it. Raya is just one of many secret “elite” social platforms that most of us have never even heard of. The wealthy live in a completely different reality from us.
Honestly, I don’t see much issue with that, the amount of people with some unhealthy parasocial attachment to celebrities kind of makes it a good idea to limit the userbase
