• @Spacehooks@reddthat.com
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    25 days ago

    I actually did this to my friend who refused to wear seat belt who also didnt lock her car. I just ran up while she was on phone and pulled her 100lbs self out. Learned her lesson right there. BTW she had several stalkers so I scared the crap out her but that was the point. If I can do easily its over if someone who wanted to hurt her tried.

      • @Spacehooks@reddthat.com
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        24 days ago

        Trying to get your friend to lock doors and wear a seat belt regularly? Particularly when she is also concerned about ppl hurting her?

        I guess I should have just said my piece and just let the dice fall wherever.

        • LustyArgonian
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          14 days ago

          That first paragraph is you admitting it is about control.

          Yes, that’s how bodily autonomy works - you say your piece and let people do what they want with their own body. She literally could have had you arrested and charged with assault, maybe battery depending on her injuries. You don’t get to grab others with your no no grabby hands. Didn’t you learn that in preschool?

          • @Spacehooks@reddthat.com
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            02 days ago

            Yeah I guess she could have if I was wasn’t the person she called to come over when she was scared at night and wasn’t her flatmate for a year before this event. At the time she was a sister to me and my SO and watching her not listen to basic safety was frustrating. If she wasn’t, I would have sat back and let fate take its course.

            I respect your perspective but in this case for me anyway its better to try something than a event happening and regretting I could have tried harder to prevent this and didnt.

            • LustyArgonian
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              1 day ago

              Codependency isn’t an excuse to assault someone.

              I don’t hurt my sisters. “Like a sister” - you attacked her. Not only could you be charged with a crime, she also could completely reasonably use legal lethal force against you in that scenario in many states. FYI most killers are known to their victims beforehand, so that you know her actually makes you more likely to kill her compared to a stranger.

              You just don’t want to let go of abusing others so you are making excuses.

              • @Spacehooks@reddthat.com
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                112 hours ago

                Hardly consider it codependency. Unless all close bonds are considered that. Which is why me doing it was not an issue but if someone else did yeah it would have been.

                Like if my mom cut a lock of my hair would I be annoyed and kick her in the shin? sure. I would demand a explaination but not go nuclear. Some person I barely know? Hell to pay.

                what’s important is the view the people involved have here. I doubt if I apologized today it would be accepted because no one involved view it as a problem.